It's good that there's no judgement from either of them. Well, not on Castiel, at least. There's plenty of judgement for Jason and Sam and Dean will deal with that later.

Sam steps forward, reaching up to cup Castiel's head, supporting but not forcing his head anywhere. "You asked for it because there's a part of you that needs to not be in control sometimes. As strong as you are, and you ARE strong, Castiel...as strong as you are, you need to be vulnerable sometimes, too."

Sam understood the need, even if from the other side. "You met a man who saw that in you and took advantage of the fact that you didn't know what you needed or what you were getting into. He abused you and made you think it was entirely your idea. But you didn't ask for this, Cas. What he did was so far beyond what's acceptable..."